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Originally Posted by quantum
Sorry, I'm feeling a bit jumped on by your post.
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Sorry if I hurt your feelings, but I strongly disagree with an parent being the instigator in the reunion with their birth child. There are WAY too many reasons why I believe this, but first and foremost is the psychological impact of placing this information on the shoulders of someone who may not be prepared/ready/knowledgeable for this.
I firmly believe that if the child goes searching, then the birth parents information should be made freely available (if they wish). However, there are so many unknowns about the child's situation that cannot be determined until it is too late to undo the damage of making that first contact from the birth parent. If the birth parent cares about the child, then they should be willing to endure the pain as long as it takes (forever if needed) until the child is ready to seek them out. No amount of arguing, sidestepping, or stomping of feet will change my mind in this matter.