[humanpitchpipe]

I can relate to your feelings of resentment toward your husband. Due to my husband's health condition (bipolar disorder) we are not eligible to adopt from many countries. My best advice is to take a look at all of your options - I had my heart set on China, but that won't happen, so I moved on and began to look elsewhere. Your husband can't change what happened in his past, just as my husband can't help that he has a chemical imbalance in his body. Don't give up, and be a supportive spouse (I know that this very hard to do because I have been there). What was always frustrating to me was seeing incompetent parents keep having babies and I just wanted to have a child, but DH was a stumbling block.