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Speaking as one who became offended by some of the responses I recieved, this is what I think. I learned from that experience to add the disclammer "my opinion". Anyway, I felt my feelings were invalidated most everyone. A few were helpful but I couldn't address them for having to defend myself.They thought they were educating me but really, they had different experiences than mine which didn't mean I was wrong and they were right.I did my best to clarify what I was saying and had began to have a dialogue of understanding, then other people continued to jumped in on the attack wagon. I wonfered if anyone was even hearing me? I never wanted to post again after that. I was new and have only posted one other time. I was hoping for support but the place just seemed hostile. Its hard not to take it personally when you have so much pain that your already dealing with. Before "educating" someone maybe people should just say, "this is what I know" instead of "your messed up" maybe ask someone what their experience is that makes them believe as they do before getting all self rightious about it.
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