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Being an Aunt and future adoptive mommy to our niece I can totally understand what you are going thru.
In our case we faught to get our niece with us for 9 months because CPS was saying that bonding did occur with the FP's...but the strange thing was we were involved from about 6 wks into her being placed with them. We did eventually hire an attorney and get our niece moved to our home but not after alot of heartache on everyones part. If you decide to go ahead please do it with the childs best interest at heart....and remember the FP's love that child like their own and keep a relationship going if you can and it's positive. Do what is best for the child and not what is best for the adults. It's a hard decision and you'll get both sides giving pros and cons. In your heart you'll find the right side and go with it. Just remember to keep the child's best interest first always and you shouldn't go wrong.
If the bioparents get the child back and wish to give custody to you and you all feel it's the childs best interest then get an attorney. I'm not sure if becoming a foster parent would benefit because the child wouldn't be relinquished within the system however that could be an option if the child is put back in the system. You could at least have a license showing your are stable and licensed to take in the child.
If the FM and CPS claims bonding with the child has occured and moving them to your home would be traumatizing for the child then ask for a bonding assessement. The only thing is it could backfire on you if you don't have that attachment that the FP's currently have with the child. It's a chance you can take if you feel you have some type of bond too. Just being family doesn't mean you are the best person for parenting the child and just remember the FP's have love for that child too.
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