[Dmitry'smom]

I have two really great children. One is my son Dmitry who for the last almost 8 years had been an only child. Dmitry was adopted from Russia when he was two, until then he was in an orphanage. In March we brought home our little girl Sophia. Dmitry is having some problems accepting Sophia with love. He worries about her and is not mean to her (ie knock her down or hurt her) but he is always nagging at her and acting like everything she does is just wrong. Now it is affecting our relationship also. He seems resentful towards me for showing attention to his sister and is starting to get the wrong kind of attention.

I should say Dmitry is a really good boy most of the time and he is not doing obvious things to either his parents or sister but he seem angry all the time. He pretty much stopped being loving to us and I found out today he lied to me about a field trip so I wouldn't go (and take his sister). Dmitry has had a really rough year, open heart surgery and all the fall out that came with it and then a new sister that everyone fawns over. I have tried to be patient but it seems to be getting worse.

We tried making one on one time EVERY night with Dmitry. One night it would be me and the next his dad but it was still not enough. He expects any time we spend with him his sister can not be there or it does not count. This has gotten worse all of the sudden since our trip this weekend. I feel like if I can foster a closer relationship with Dmitry and Sophia maybe it would ease everyone's relationship.

Any suggestions would be appriciated. Otherwise, thank you for just letting me vent even that has helped.