[robandjulie]

I think I'd ask for milestones: age at crawling, walking, words, etc. Not sure how precise she could be, but that would be nice to know and I think ok for the first round of questions.

Eventually, I'd really want to know any medical history that they can share about the birthparents. I can't imagine facing a lifetime of "do you have a history of...?" with a complete unknown so I'd really want to be able to provide that for my child.

And any stories or favorite memories about their time together so you can save them and share with your daughter in case you lose contact and she can't hear them from her birthmother another time.

Good luck drafting a reasonable list. This is a wonderful opportunity but I'd be so nervous about how to go about it, too!