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I think we need to really recognize this.. and speak more about this on the boards..

Your post has really given me some insight.. thank you..
I could feel that there were issues with my bson family.. and I backed off..

Jackie

(((Jackie))) Thank you for your kind words.

I'm sorry you felt you had to back off because of his family issues.

I don't think that adoptees owe their parents not searching or building relationships with their birth families, not for a minute! But I do not understand why aparents' feelings and struggle with it are so often met with scorn, dismissal, or advice to just ignore or freeze them out...rather than with the compassion and grace we all want when we're confused and hurting, especially from immediate family members.

I hope that things with your son's family improve so that it's not an impediment to your relationship. I like happy endings.