[EZ2Luv]

No you are not being selfish at all IMO. It isn't your responsibility to fix her. Obviously she needs to work out her issues without placing expectations on others or you.

I know I know it is mother's day and all but seriously all these Hallmark holidays only serve to set people up for outrageous expectations.

The facts are YOU are a Mother, it is YOUR day.

Yes she gave birth to your son but she is NOT parenting him so IMO all bets are off the day she signed him over. Open adoption or not.

Please don't let guilt overtake you. When your son is older he himself can decide what he wants to do on these holidays when it comes to calls, cards or gift Birthdays are different, because everybody has them and we all probably aknowledge friends and family on their special day.

I know that you care for your son's bmom and that is fine, but to get to the point of worry beecause she is haviing a bad day is a big responsibility to put upon yourself.

Let me ask you this hypothetically. What happens if one day when your son is older that he does not choose to send his Bmom a card, gift orcall her? Would you still feel obligated? Mother's day is a day to cellebrate our mothers. While this is your son's bmom, she is not YOUR mother. End of story.

you are a very caring woman, that is obvious. Even still the girl needs to work her issues and expectations out on her own. Maybe down the road you can send her a little pick me up note, but to direct it to mother's day expectations that she has is a bit much. It is YOUR day as Mother, I hope you had a great one.

EZ