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Well, I'm on both sides, I'm adopted myself..and I know how weird I'd feel if I was in L's shoes..but yes I did email her and she is excited about meeting me, I made sure of that.
My biggest concern first and foremost is L. Yes, I want a relationship with her, but I don't want ANYONE in this to be uncomfortable... All parties have to be on board with this or it's not going to work..and that's fine..if we meet and Amom/Adad or even L feel it's too much too soon..that's cool.
I don't understand super clingy bmoms..you gave the child up for whatever reason..you can't barge into their lives expecting them to accept you with open arms, and love you like their mom. I can't imagine what or how I'd feel if/when my Bmom finds me. I just want L to know me, know where she came from and never have to have that wondering like I have.
Her Dad is trying to set boundaries with me, and I understand that. Over the course of several back and forth emails, he voiced his concerns and his fears , and I told him mine as well..I also hope that I helped quell his concerns and fears..at least somewhat.
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