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Gee Aspen are we sisters? I too had a sucky mom. I did not call her or send her anything yesterday. I also wished I was adopted as a kid. For me it was worse because I knew that I had been put up for adoption, but that an aunt who was hormal being pregnant herself (this happened after she had agreed to adopt me and was the only reason no abortion happened, by the time she found out she was pregnant and backed out of the adoption it was too late for an abortion so I was placed for adoption by a private agency) My aunt was upset about my going to strangers, so she paid my parents to get me back. So I did have other parents for two weeks. I don't remember that of course, LOL, but I sure did fantasize about them. My mom made it clear to me that I had ruined her life. Of course she went on to have six more kids. She loves one. (my brother was her dream child and learned early how to work her to his advantage, he's now an alcoholic and child molester) and she likes one (my sister who is married to the drug dealer who hits her and who won't talk to me cause I won't give her money) and the rest of us were just in the way. I e-mail her occasionally and once ever few years she sends cheap christmas gifts to my kids (usually sometime in the spring) she has never met my younger kids and seen the older ones only twice. Once when I went to visit her for one of my brother's funerals and once when I paid her to come to sis's HS graduation. (we had then had coustody of sis for more than three years and having her parents come to the graduation was all she wanted for graduation)
So yeah, I understand that. However I no longer think about her on mother's day, I think about my kids only. Lucky for me I have a very attached daughter and one very sensitive and sweet bio child. They redeem the day for me. I do love my Mil but her judgemental attitude makes it hard.
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