[Stormster]

I saw on DS's myspace page that she was upset yesterday. I don't want to put the exact words for obvious reasons but clearly she didn't get the calls she hoped for on mothers day.

Now I know DS is only one of several kids that don't live with her but I feel horrible. I don't really want to start a precedent and I am very attentive in other ways so why do I feel so thoughtless?

I know we discussed birthmothers day but is it common for birthmothers in open adoptions expect something on mothers day?

I actually wrote her a post after I saw that saying Happy Mothers Day but she's been horribly depressed and I could have just made her smile earlier in the day. I feel like she counts on me to do the right thing. I don't really want to hear how co-dependent I am on her because I am finally in counseling and that is one of the things I'm dealing with on my own.

But do you think she expected more? I do. Ugh. I wanted mothers day to be just for me but maybe I was being selfish. Really, what's the big deal...to make her smile when she's clearly in terrible shape right now. I know I know it's not MY problem but being a thoughtful human being is something I think about. Esp. now that I know what it feels like to be a mother. PS I was only on her myspace page because she sent ME a card that was linked through there.