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I wasn't adopted, and I had a SUCKY MOTHER....and I felt the same way all the cutesy crafts/songs we had to do, made me wanna gag! especially because I got the message from her that kids were a trial and a hassle to be endured...I didn't think my mom thought of anyone but herself, she never did nice things for me or anything, and she's basically a really toxic and abusive person....I use to WISH I was adopted
So, I don't think adoption ruined mother's day for you...She'd still be the same mean, self centered person...and you'd still hate mother's day...only you wouldn't have a second mom to redeem the day for you and give it another meaning....a day to celebrate the woman who really did a wonderful job of parenting and gave so much of herself for your benefit and made sure your needs were met....
I feel more warm and fuzzy towards my Mother in Law, than I do my own mother....she redeemed the day for me, and I try to be the best I can for my dd so the cycle is broken.
You'd hate mother's day just as much if you weren't adopted, trust me...nothing curdles my blood worse than OBLIGATORY GIFTS....made mandatory by an official holiday.....what my fam does for me on the random days when it isn't coerced or forced is what I treasure most...then I have to remind myself, it's possible that my dd's gifts etc...actually might come from the heart!
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