[Howdy]

If you have been over all the reports and the information is acceptable, then it seems unlikely that meeting the child would be a deal breaker?

There was one child I considered whose foster parents told me that they thought I should decide without meeting the child (and I eventually decided against the placement). They said their theory of why her previous placement didn't work out (they'd also been the child's fparents before the failed adoptive placement) was because she was so cute and sweet and the previous potential mother met the child and then ignored all the negative information because the child was so appealing.

As far as the transition if you decide to accept the placement, there is a good book about that called 'A Child's Journey Through Placement', I think that book says that a child (of the age you are considering) should not be moved until they are in either a 'mad' or 'sad' stage of grief about changing families. The book had a story of a child moved while she was still in the 'denial' or 'bargaining' stage of grief, and that the girl had much harder time in the new placement because she believed she could find a way to get to go back to the previous home.