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I'm wondering how a ten year old can not fully understand that girls who are not married sometimes have babies. Do they keep this girl locked in her room with no access to any sort of outside world/media?
Another thing I fully don't understand, is, even if a person's religious beliefs do not condone birth control, given that teens can be so impulsive and not always consider all the consequences, wouldn't it be better to have them use it as a precaution rather than be faced with an unexpected pregnancy and then forced to go through the trauma of having a child and giving it up? Especially if an unintended pregnancy is so disgraceful, shameful and horrible as these parents say it is and abortion is not an option?
I can understand if the parents don't want to or cannot take on the responsibility of their grandchild. I can even understand if they feel the best thing for their daughter/grandchild would be adoption. What I don't understand is how they can deny their daughter any voice or input whatsoever, how they assume their beliefs are her beliefs, how they want to shame her, hide her away and are so concerned about "damaging" their younger daughter. In fact, their whole attitude towards their older daughter is far more damaging than anything!
Given they are so controlling, I doubt this girl will be able to stand up to them at all. And to be forced to have a child and give it up as punishment is something I will never understand. I think if they would take the time to talk to their daughter, listen to her concerns, evaluate what they are all willing and able to do, and treat her with respect, even if she ended up relinquishing, the trauma would not nearly be as bad. Adoption can be a very good thing for all involved (it was in my case), but I was not treated as this girl is. It's when all this shame and secrecy are put behind it and the girl is being punished that turns it into the worst nightmare.
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