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I'm completely hands on with my son, age 4.
When he was an infant, my wife would work evenings three nights a week from 7-11pm. It was a great experience for our entire family. To have the time alone with him is something I'll treasure the rest of my life. It gave my wife the independence and confidence to get back into the working world. It also gave her confidence in my parenting abilities.
Ever since he arrived in our lives though, we've divided the responsibilities as evenly as possible. When he was in diapers, when I got home from work I did every diaper during our remaining waking hours. Afterall, when I was at work, it wasn't like my wife could ever hand him off, or even negotiate with someone to take turns. During sleeping hours, I still did at least half of those diapers as well.
We've always worked things out very evenly in that regard.
As the boy's gotten older, I've transitioned jobs to one that allows me to be really flexible with my hours, so I can take time for special events at preschool etc. It's fantastic. My wife is a SAHM, but works part time when our boy's at preschool and that just creates a great balance for all of us. I've also been coaching his preschool age sports teams, two seasons of soccer and one baseball so far. That's been amazingly rewarding!
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