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I agree with what dpen6 just stated, and also is there an adoption triad support group in your area? Maybe through the agency you were placed with (assuming your adoption was handled through an agency)? I have found it very helpful to get together with other triad members who are in various stages of reunion. Also you may wish to read some books on adoption reunion and how it affects all members of the triad.
You can try to reassure your parents but you can't make them understand something if they are not ready to. Still, you have to do what you need to do right now for yourself, not with total disregard for them, but with the understanding that they may not be ready to accept this now, and may not ever be as understanding as you'd like. Then again, they may come around and surprise you, it's just hard to tell right now.
I think what is most important in reunion is to move slowly, take time to process the myriad emotions that will definitely come up, and educate yourself as much as possible on adoption reunion. If you are open to professional counseling, that is helpful, too. Maybe you and your parents can go together??
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