[momraine]

How would you have answered this situation.
A friend of mine said that she was a school field trip, waiting for the kids to arrive on the bus. Another mom we both know, but not well started talking to her. My friend mentioned that she knew I would be coming when the kids came because I was the one gathering the kids lunches and getting them in a cooler and that I was checking to be sure that they had the wheelchair bus, otherwise I would have to drive my son. (there is only one wheelchair bus, it's a small school district) Well, this woman went off on my friend. She started telling her that she resented me because my son was taking away from her kids. First she said I was getting lots of money from the government and all I did was give birth to a deformed kid. My friend informed her that my son was adopted. Then the woman started talking about all the money I was still getting from the goverment for adopting him. My friend informed her that I get no goverment money, and she started in on how all adopted kids get money and medicaid. She mentioned that I had adopted him from another country so did not get any of that. That still did not satisfy that woman. She started in on how her insurance policies cost more because of people like me. She talked about how he took all the teachers time and stuff and that when he grew up he would be on disability and she would have to pay for him. My friend was dumbfounded. And about that point the busses pulled up. I knew something was wrong with my friend, but we did not get a chance to talk until later. I was livid. I mean first off my son's care that has to do with is disability is pretty much covered by Scottish Rite hospital, and they run strickly on donations. Our wheelchair van we bought with our own money, we paid two thousand dollars for his wheelchair, out of pocket. We also have a college fund for him. We fully intend for him to be self sufficiant.

How ever, all of that is beside the point. I am willing to bet that if her child was born with a disability or God forbid was in an accident or had an illness that left him disabled she would want him to go to school. She would want him to have medical care etc.

This woman has never spoken to me. I don't really know her well. I am not sure she realized that my friend and I were good friends.

So any advice? My friend is wondering what she should say to her the next time the meet. I get the feeling this woman avoids me, but I am thinking of confronting her. Her son is not in my son's class, just in the same grade and they are not friends. It's crazy isn't it? I am still in shock.