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I consider my dd's bfam to be simply another set of In-laws....just as my in-laws are family by a legal proceding, so are my dd's bparents. They love and care about dd just as any family member would, but don't have any authority on the day to day raising. Their relationship with her contributes to who she is, but if we go months without any contact, it's still relaxed next time we speak...we just pick up where we left off.
And I am always interested in another person's experience with the same challenges I face, so advice given wouldn't necessarily be seen by me as an attempt at co-parenting...as long as it wasn't insisted upon, or demanded, or pushed at me repeatedly.
I don't think she'd give me any advice, because the reasons she placed is vastly different than the majority of bmoms I've encountered here. She didn't want to be her parent anymore, and freely admitted she wasn't effective at it, and had run out of ideas/strength to continue the fight. But, if she provided insight into my dd's way of thinking, I'd find that extremely valuable!
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