Thank you to all......I sooooo appreciate the responses!!!!!
Regarding their hair now.........as far as tangles and such, we have no problems...really! I wash it no more than once a week (sometimes, every 10days)......and oil it as it goes. It's very soft, manageable.....and I take down the puffs and put them up daily. They sleep with do-rags (well, most of the time now...still encouraging that more)......and it's not the complaints of tangles or combing that are any problem; it's the 'pressure' from some of the other girls at church. I even get it from some AA friends/family members who believe I oughta start that relaxer (and considered too, texturizer). It's like if they have ANY loose hair...even if it's merely come out from the barrett, there's some sort of crime to that???
THAT part, I don't get, KWIM? I thought when kids play......so goes the hair and clothes??
I just hate that having to continue upkeep; and, frankly, in applying to hopefully adopt another baby....I don't see how I'll have much time.
Resources for salons are few and far between; and while I've had offers to 'do their hair' to relax it, etc.....I've also seen what's happened to their OWN hair, or relatives hair, and have seen the breakage and dryness most of you have written about. I can't stand the thought that something I thought was 'fad for the time', ends up hurting their hair----almost permanently. (sigh)
My gut instinct is to wait (as you suggested once before to me, Sleep
).....and let them be little girls. Heaven knows (and experience has shown)....they'll be teens before I even turn around!
Thanks again!
Most Sincerely,
Linny