[browneyes0707]

I see what you are saying in a sense, I believe there is a commonality in regard to emotions. In OA, the relationship between the two adults is bound by what is best for the child. If it wasn't for that child, there would be no relationship. It's similar when two people divorce and there are children involved, there is a need to continue the relationship after the fact in regard to what is best for the child. I don't really know if I would be in a relationship with DD's a-mom if it wasn't for DD, but I do my best to maintain the realtionship because of her, the way most parents would post divorce. Make sense?

However I agree with Jenna that it is apples and oranges because unlike a divorce, I am no longer a custodial parent and have no input on how my DD is raised, decisions made regarding her welfare etc etc.

I have however always referred to my ex as "the husband I never married" because I do in a sense see myself treating him like an ex husband in regards to my daughter (no badmouthing, encouraging a relationship regardless of personal feelings etc etc) and our relationship is on equal footing in regards to DD (or should be anyway)

Plus I'd like to see him take a walk off a short pier :P