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I know it can be a hard place to be in.
My thoughts are this, Therelationship you have with your parents can never be replaced as it invovles you when you were at your most vunerable. You experianced you biggest milestones with them. That will never change. Your childhood is gone and the memories are with them.
Once they reaize that your reuinon really is about YOU and only YOU, that you reuniting has to do with you finding out about yorself and is not indicative of their parenting. It is not a measure of how much you love them , just because you wanted to meet the women that gave birth to you. Once they realize that your love for them won't change, that they are still mom and dad, that they can still hold on to the honors of being mom and dad, maybe they can be more accepting of your relationship with your birthmother.
I truly hope that all invovled in this including your bmom can understand the precarious place you are in. It can be so exciting yet so scary. Our birth alone has far reaching implications for everyone else. rreunions dreges up all sorts of feelings for the parents(all of them) and everyone else in the pheriphery. As an adopted person its a scary place.
I would test the waters with your parents, tell them nothing is going to change with their realtionship with you, that you are still the same daughter but one that now will know her roots. That their roots are still as important and yes on some level are your roots too, but now you have all the branches of your roots.
Congrats on finding your birthmother. It really is an exciting time. My suggestion is to keep it slow and steady.
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