[tbristow]

I think we've all been there. I watched my son's 5-minute referral video at least 5 times before a copy went to the IA. Even though I could tell he was on target, I was looking for the facial signs. We had/have no medical history as he was abandoned at birth. Flash forward 3.5 years from the referral and my son is now past 4 and has know his ABC's since 2 and is learning to read.

You never really know. Prepare for the worst and pray for the best. Make sure you select a good IA. They can usually rule out the worst cases, but nobody can rule out FAE.

I will say that my almost 22-year-old step-dd (ex's dd) has FAS. She lives on her own and is raising a son. While she's not doing terrific (Mom raised her "in the system"), most of that has nothing to do with FAS. FAS made it more of a struggle for her socially (fitting in) and school than anything else. It is survivable.