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soeone called it apples and oranges.
I think from the childs viewpoint that is very true. Adoption is about a child, the very core of the child is being bandied about by adults. divorce is about 2 adults that have made a child/bringing up a child. The adoption brings up feelings for the adults that totally affect the worth of the child, divorce is about the worth of the marriage, then the best interst of the child.
The child becomes who they are because of adoption(born to one, raised by another), in divorce they are already in the family...even though that family is being torn apart, they started with that fmaily and didn't need to adjust to another.....make sense?
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