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Our transition period was 6 weeks, and our now AS had wanted to move it along faster. We saw him 4 or 5 times in the area where he was before our first weekend visit (he stayed friday afternoon to sunday afternoon). Even on his first weekend with us, I made him do chores Saturday morning (as this is our normal chore day). We couldn't prevent the going out and finding activities to do when we were visiting him (as it was outside the foster home), but the three weekend visits, we cooked dinner, stayed home for most of it, limited visitors, etc.
During visitations/meetings, do not buy gifts to give the child. Bring board games, or uno, or something to play, interact with...but don't bring him presents. You don't want him to be accustomed to that. Actually, our first placement was a 7yr old boy and we had no children. Each day he would find toys in his toy box that he didn't remember seeing yesterday ... I would just tell him he must have been to busy playing with something else. It was our way of building up his toys (he came with ZERO), without it being a new present each day that he had to open. (We opened them and placed them in the toy box before he got home from school).
Also, don't go overboard. Keep his world small and simple. Limit electronics and individual stuff.
I too don't see any red flag in terms of the FM.
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