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We adopted a newborn, then a 20m old. There was a huge difference in the 2 adoptions. We were not prepared and probably had rose colored glasses on regarding toddler adoption. The book The weavers craft, toddler adoption is very good on the subject.
Unfortunatly everbody's experiences will be different, depending on the child and circumstances around the adoption.
Was your first child a newborn or older?
Best of luck and feel free to ask any questions. We are an open book.