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Originally Posted by Bug-n-Bears-Mommy
I am sure it will be something we will discuss together. If he asks, we will use our best judgement as far as what we feel is appropriate to share. I really don't think there is any set age that such things are appropriate, so it would be something we would have to feel was right. Much of this depends on mental development and ability to handle and comprehend such deep topics.
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I wound up on this forum by accident but had to share. I am 23 and currently in a relationship with a 24 yr old who found out last year that his birth father, whom he was introduced to at age 18, raped his mother and that caused his conception. He has several brothers but they are all half brothers and now he understands why. I was a very rough thing for him to go through, I was the only person he felt comfortable telling but it was something that caused the 24 yr old ex-marine to break down and cry. His step-dad had a few at the bar and told him everything. His mom had been around in her town and when she began a relationship with his birth father she wanted to take it slow. That plan didn't work out. The relationship continued after the rape and eventually what he did to her killed it. She trusted him. It was a very difficult thing for my boyfriend to go through and now his already strained relationship with his birth father is gone--but it IS a part of him. I thank God every day that he was born. It didn't change my view of him. My life is forever changed because of it and I think that it helps him knowing that regardless of how he got here, life wouldn't be the same without him for the people that love him.