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I think that you have to address the possibility that he might not know he was adopted. Or, that he might not know the full story about his adoption. It's hard when you are operating without the full knowlegde of the situation to gauge anyones reaction.
That being said you might consider your next contact via registered mail or fed ex, so that you get a signature confirmation, knowing that he got this from you.
You also don't know how much access he has to a computer privately which could be another factor.
That being said as an adoptee I rejected my biomom the first time she attempted to contact me almost 10 years ago. I didn't think I needed her in my life, I had a lot of anger and the shock of the fact that she was actually looking for me I think was the most overwhelming feeling. There were other factors at play there too but I don't want to hijack this thread and turn it into being about me.
My point is this year I decided that enough time had passed and that I was emotionally ready to go forward and start the reunion process. We're just exchanging emails now I can't seem to manage to pick up the phone and make that call. He might just need time, time to adjust, time to come to terms with things.
The important thing I would try to hammer across to him is that you will always be there whenever he is ready to reach out and he will always be welcomed into your life.
I would say keep on the bright side, I know it's hard, and keep thinking that he might just need time to process especially if he doesn't know about being adopted.
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