[Oceans]

Many have followed my journey to Reunion. 6 weeks ago, I didn’t even know my sons name, and here I am today, waiting for him to respond to an email stating that I may be his birthmom. Ten days later, I have heard nothing and he has not visited my MS page since first getting the message. I know, I need to give it time but his lack of interest in my MS page says a lot – at least to me. It’s hard but I’m OK with that.

He’s 26 btw, not living near his parents, etc…

I have prepared a letter for him detailing all the things that adoptees should know about themselves. Medical history (there is some he should know but not overly serious), family origins (basic genealogy), his bdad’s name and contact info, how I found him, and that bdad and I dated in HS. No “I love you’s” or “have always thought of you”, etc. I don’t want the guilt factor. Obviously, I reached out in the first place so I care about him. Bdad is preparing the same info (medical history and family orgins).

I’m thinking I will send this letter out in another week or so because he should NOT have to contact me in order to get the info if he doesn’t want have contact in the first place…KWIM?

The only thing that is messing with me here is that there is ALWAYS the slight possibility that he doesn’t know he’s adopted and discarded my original letter as some weird MS person phishing for something (?) I’m not OK with him “not knowing” to be honest but I more strongly believe it’s not my place to tell him. I keep thinking if I send the letter, it will probably clue him in (even the stripped down version).

Should I send it (eventually) or let it go...
Do you think it’s possible he doesn’t know?