[lucyjoy]

This is an exciting time, but likely a scary time for this boy. Long transitions are tough on kids as the back and forth leaves so much uncertainty for them and unlike the adults involved, they have no say.

One thing I think is important when doing visits and transitions is to do things you will do in your normal daily life. Too much entertaining and the child will expect life to be like that every day living with you.

The fostermom's questions didn't raise any flags for me. If she's been a fostermom for long, she likely knows the longer the transition, the more negative behaviors she will have to deal with.

Good luck getting things worked out.