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Originally Posted By Lara

I hope you find "Margaret" and tell her you love her.

I am a 30 year old adoptee. I tracked down both my birthparents within the last two years. My birthmother
was so glad that I "wanted to know her".

I had always known that I was adopted, and my parents were always very supportive of my wish to search. (This world would be a better place if all adoptive parents supported their children).

My birthmother told me that she never felt like she had the right to look for me after giving me away. I would have loved to have heard from someone that she wanted to know me. There are so many uncertainties for adoptees.

If you can find her address, I suggest that you write her a letter. Tell her how you feel and that you welcome any contact with her. She may or may not respond; but I know I would have been so excited to get a letter from my birthmother.

If she does respond, and you do meet her, let her set the pace for the relationship and don't expect her to say I love you right away.

Good luck to you both!!