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Melissa,
Thank you for that post! For some reason today I seemed to have been reading all of the really happy posts, the ones that make adoption sound perfect. I needed to know that I'm not the only one who sees something wrong with the whole idea of adoption these days. Every time I read or hear something about me giving the aparents a gift, I can't STAND it! I don't SAY that... I just say thank you for the nice words, because they really were meant to be nice and I know that, and I move on. I really do feel grateful for the kindness. But I really DON'T CARE what I gave the adoptive parents. They're nice people and all, but they were strangers, I didn't owe them any sort of gift, much less my own daughter. I did owe my daughter a gift... a nice life. Every parent owes that to their children. I don't know that I chose the best way to give that to her, but I chose one way, which has many good aspects but also MANY BAD, for both of us (again, I don't care so much about her parents).
I'm not angry about my adoption, I've accepted the way it is, I just have bitter days.. and while I'm not apologizing, I do hope that I didn't say anything that offended anyone.
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