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I don't know how to advise you... I'm very sorry for your situation. It's obvious that you want to do the right thing, and it's obviously tearing you apart. It is reassuring to hear that there are foster parents/ potential adoptive parents out there who truly put the best interest of children first.
My thoughts about your situation:
1. YES, it will hurt your daughter to lose contact with her biological family.
2. It would hurt her even more (IMO) to lose contact with you, since you are her primary caregiver and the person she knows as "Mommy".
3. Yes (again, IMO), children are always better off with their biological families, all other things being equal. But ONLY if all other considerations are equal.
Taking all these things into consideration, I have no idea what I'd do if I were in your shoes. Do what you have to do, what your heart tells you.
What about a really, really open adoption where your daughter still had lots of ongoing contact with her bio-family?
I don't know. Whatever happens, I hope you find it in your heart to continue fostering... the system needs more foster parents like you.
Best of luck whatever you decide, ~ Shar
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