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I think it's important to remember that survivors of child sexual abuse often have red flags raised when other people see innocent fun.

It's understandable, really, that when one's boundaries have been so horribly violated as a child, one wouldn't understand the difference between a discussion of children "flirting" and something more ominous. It is also true that pedophiles find innocent behavior as provocative -- that's the nature of their perversion.

I didn't read Anna's post that she deleted but she has spoken movingly of her own history. In knowing and listening to other survivors, I know that her discomfort with such language is not uncommon. While I think the discussion here has been absolutely innocent and should be taken as such, I also understand why someone with a history of being molested would become very worried about such discussion.