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This post made me think about a video I saw at a training. I don't think I will ever forget it, or be able to read the transcript of it without tears. Here is a link to it: adoption.about.com/library/foster/bltransitions.htm[/url]
I hope I did that right.
Here are some quotes taken from it (just to encourage you to read the whole thing!). . .
I want to talk to you about what it feels like getting ready to be adopted, when you are a little kid who has already had about a hundred mothers. . .
When some of the people who took care of you were called "foster parents" and you didn't know what that meant except something about they weren't going to stick around. . . .
Kids like me, see, don't have families of our own. because there's something wrong about us. (I guess) Or because there aren't enough to go around. Or something. . . .
After a while I had lost too many people that I might have cared about. I had been with too many "parents" who really weren't because they couldn't hold me tightly in their hearts at all. . . .
And so now I won't let you imagine even for a minute that I like you. That I need you, desperately. That I might ever grow to trust you. . . .
I will make you sorry you ever thought about trying to get close to me. I will make you feel almost as small and helpless as I have usually felt. . . .
Okay, I am tearing up again. The video is really powerful. It's written by Michael Trout. The only voices you hear are those of children. As I read it on-line I hear just the way the children said it. I wish that every foster parent, cw, judge, GAL, etc. could see it.
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