[HappyMomAnna]

These situations are always difficult to predict. there are several things that a judge would consider. Your daughters desires will matter at her age. Her birthfathers lack of interest will also play a part. Has he ever paid child support?
The reasons for the supervised order will matter--has he changed or continued to be the kind of person who needs to be supervised...?
You could hire an attorney (family law and adoption) and aske to have the parental rights of the bio father terminated. They usually require proof that he is unfit..... if he isn't unfit and if he is just a dumb A*s -loser who waited around and got scared oneday because he realized he didn't know his little girl......maybe it won't hurt to let your daughter get to know him..... Many adopted children grow up and feel a part is missing--your daughter may become an adult and want to know her father. Do you know if he has changed? Is he married and mature now? Is he regretting this lost time.....it could happen.

Think ahead to when your daughter is a grown woman and decides to contact her birth father.........will your story and your feelings be the reality she finds as an adult? Do you want her to be angry and resentful and accuse you of denying her the right to know her bio father? Your daughter will grow up and she will most likely form her own opinions.

But, if he is in fact a horrible man who has no right to say he is her dad.....then an attorney should have no problem helping you terminate his rights.

Many children have wonderful relationships with step-parents but are also given the chance to know the bio parent..... I don't have to tell my two birth children (19&20) why I didn't stay married to their father---or why I demand he not spend time with them unsupervised---as they have grown up they have come to understand the answers to this by their own witnessing of him. I don't need to say a single bad word about their father ever---because it is really clear to them. I don't have to put him down or give them a reason to be angry with him---he does that job for me. I don't have children who resent me or question why their father has not been a bigger part of their lives.....and i never had to pay a lawyer a ton of money to cut the ties.

My kids love their step-father very very much and they do not resent me for any chioce I have made. They have never heard me speak of their father in any way that might damage their self esteem.

Remember as your daughter grows she will realize that her genes are this man you hate so much. Many children take on bad feelings about themselves and think that if their father is so bad they must be bad too........

Think about all the issues and remeber that you will be the mother of an 'adult' child much more time then you are the mother of a minor child.......when they grow up they do ask questions, they do want to know bio family and they do decide what mistakes you make they will hold aggainst you. What if your daughter grows up and finds her birthfather has been reformed and is now an honorable man with a heart to share with his own daughter?