1.) How are you connected to adoption?
BIRTHMOM
2.) Do you do anything special to celebrate national adoption month (Nov.)? NOT YET I AM GOING TO SEND AMOM A E-CARD
3.) When growing up, did you know anyone connected to adoption?
NOT UNTIL I TURNED 13 WHEN I FOUND OUT MY STEP DAD WAS AN ADOPTEE
4.) If you can remember, when did you first learn about adoption as a child?
AT THE AGE OF 13
5.) In high school, did you know anyone who had a baby and placed?
NO
4.) Anyone in your family, other than you, connected to adoption?
MY STEP DAD
5.) When adopting or placing your child, did anyone say rude/ignorant comments? What were they? If you are an adoptee, have you received rude comments?
MY FAMILY WAS VERY RUDE SOMEONE IN THE FAMILY TOLD ME I SHOULD HAVE HAD AN ABORTION
6.) If you had to do things all over again with either placing your child or adopting, what things - small or large - would you do differently
THE ONLY THING I WOULD CHANGE I WOUL DHAVE HELD MY DAUGHTER LONGER IN THE HOSPITAL
7.) How has placing/adopting your child changed you?
IT HAS MADE ME A STRONG PERSON AND SEE THINGS COMPLELY DIFFERENT
8.) How has your views changed on adoption since placing or adopting your child
THIS IS GOING TO SOUND SO MEAN BUT BEFORE I PLACED I THOUGH PEOPLE WHO PUT THERE CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION WERE THE WORST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD NOW THAT I HAVE GONE THROUGH IT I NOW SEE HOW STUPID I WAS IN THINKING THAT AND I AM SORRY TO EVERYONE FOR THINKING THAT
9.) Do you have a closed, semi-open, or fully open adoption?
SEMI-OPEN
10.) If you have an open adoption, what has been the toughest thing about it?
11.) If you have an open adoption, what has been the best thing about it?
12.) What has been the greatest lesson you've learned about the other side of the triad? (example: If you're an aMom, what have you learned about bMoms)
I JUST PLACED A COUPLE MONTHS AGO SO THE ONLY THING I HAVE REALLY LEARNED SO FAR IS HOW MUCH PEOPLE GO THROUGH TO ADOPTE
AND HOW HARD IT IS WHEN YOU THINK YOU ARE GETTTING A BABY THEN BMOM CHANGES HER MIND
13.) Name your biggest pet peeve in the adoption world?
WHEN YOU TELL PEOPLE ABOUT ADOPTION AND THE SAY "YOU GAVE YOU CHILD AWAY" NO I DIDN'T I GAVE MY CHILD A BETTER LIFE"
14.) If you are a birthmom, would you ever consider adopting a child? Why or why not?
NO OH I DON'T KNOW MAYBE
15.) Are you satisfied with the adoption agency you placed/adopted through? Why or why not?
YES YES YES ..THEY WERE GREAT WITH EVERYTHING NOT A THING I DID NOT LIKE
16.) Do you currently attend a support group or receive any counselling through an agency?
NO I CAN'T FIND ONE IN MY AREA
17.) Name a disappointment you've felt after placing/adopting:
JUST THE LOST OF MY BABY IT WAS MONTHS BEFORE A COULD TAKE A BATH WITH OUT CRYING I SPENT MY WHOLE TIME IN THE BATH TUB WHEN I WAS PREGANAT WITH MY BABY IT WAS THE ONLY TIME I COULD BEALONE
18.) Name a misconception people (family,strangers) have about you being an adoptive mom or birthmom or adoptee:
THAT I DON'T LOVE OR CARE ABOUT MY CHILD
19.) What books, magazines, websites, articles, links, etc ...have you found most helpful after placing/adopting
THIS ONE AND
www.birthmombuds.i8.com WHERE YOU CAN GET BUDDIED UP WITH ANOTHER BIRTHMOM
20.) Write anything you wish here: