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adf1972,
I am a birthmother in an open adoption. I had my baby when I was 17. I am 19 now and my son is almost two.
I was also concerned about what people would think about me when they saw that I was pregnant. I was in highschool at the time I became pregnant. I had time during summer break to make my decision to go back to school and let people see me pregnant or to be "shipped off" to live with a relative or to drop out of school and get my GED. I decided to continue going to school. I decided that I wasnt going to let ignorant and mean people make that much of an impact on my life. I'm not going to say it was easy walking through the halls with people staring at me sometimes, making comments, asking me really personal questions, but I'm glad I did it. Most of them did'nt mean to be insensitvie they were just curious and didnt now any better. I only remember two people who were actually trying to hurt me. After I delievered my baby and I came back to school it seemed like everyone had forgotten. It was old news and old gossip for them. I know that a couple people said mean things behind my back but I don't care anymore. They are ignorant. What I care about is the people during that time who came up to me and said wonderful and supportive things to me.
I was afraid to tell some family members too. I was most afraid to tell my grandpa who is very old fashion, but when we finally told him he was wonderful. He wished he had known sooner and was eager to see his great grandson. He kept a picture of him with him and showed it to all his friends.
Please don't let ignorant or mean people affect your decision. This is your decision to make. It affects the rest of your life.
I wish the best for you in whatever decision you make. If you need someone to talk to. I will be happy to talk to you.
-Ginny
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