Moira,

Finances should not come into the reunion picture.....whether one or the other is broke or not....they should be no expectations on either side regarding money. If one wants to give the other money it should be given lovingly without any reservation or guilt ...the other should't even dream of asking. Our finicial situations our ours and ours only. Nobody is "owed" anything.

Whether its the adoptee playing on birthparents guilt or vice versa..it needs to stop and boundrys applied. What a way to sabotage a relationship is to insist, imply or think the on or the other is owed money.

JMO
Donna