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Well, I think the purpose of a scrapbook sort of thing would be to keep you from being so strange to the child, and keep the move from being so scary. Give her something to look at so she's familiar with major things before she has to encounter them for real.
With that in mind, I think either of your ideas would be fine. So how about doing something in between?
She definately would need photos of the two of you and your son, labeled.
Same with the house, and what will be her room.
Pictures of the school she'll attend, the church (if you go), a distance shot of the neighborhood, etc.
I'd skip the family tree - that's a REALLY sensitive topic for adoptees. Focus on helping her transition and leave the "whose family tree are you on now" discussion for later. Include pics of grandparents if they'll be over often, though. If she won't see them soon after moving in though, you can skip them, too.
Avoid material things, too. No listing of toys you've purchased, don't set up an expectation of Christmas presents, etc.
Avoid over-glorifying it with stickers and glitter pens and such. Keep it simple and easy to read and thumb through.
And whatever you make, be sure to leave it with her between visits, so she can look through it to remind herself of it when she starts to get worried about the move.
One of my favorite ideas is to make it a loose-leaf binder. Put in a few really-important pages first, like pics of your family and the house. Next visit, bring pages that talk about the neighborhood. Next visit, pages about the school and park. Etc. It ends up being a bigger album than one you make at one sitting, but introducing one type of thing at a time is easier for the child to take in.
Good luck!
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