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1.) How are you connected to adoption? I gave my daughter up for adoption.
2.) Do you do anything special to celebrate national adoption month (Nov.)? No. I didnt even know it was national adoption month.
3.) When growing up, did you know anyone connected to adoption? No.
4.) If you can remember, when did you first learn about adoption as a child? I think I was 12 or so.
5.) In high school, did you know anyone who had a baby and placed? Yes. My best friend gave her son up for adoption when she was 18. I was by her side the whole time.
4.) Anyone in your family, other than you, connected to adoption? Yes. My aunt gave her sonup when he was 3. He was autistic. She said it was the worst it could get.
5.) When adopting or placing your child, did anyone say rude/ignorant comments? What were they? If you are an adoptee, have you received rude comments? I am a birthmother and I kept hearing "are you sure you can handle this?" It was very hard, but it was for the best of the child.
6.) If you had to do things all over again with either placing your child or adopting, what things - small or large - would you do differently? No. I wouldn't change anything. SHe is with a wonderful family and I know she is very loved and taken care of.
7.) How has placing/adopting your child changed you? I am 21 and was 20 when I gave her up. I already had a 15 month old. I just promised myself that I wouldn't have anymore until I was done with college and until I was married. Adoption is a very hard thing.
8.) How has your views changed on adoption since placing or adopting your child? After I gave her up, I read about adoption over and over. Even though it is very emotional especially being a birthmother, I find it very interesting. I would like to adopt one day.
9.) Do you have a closed, semi-open, or fully open adoption? I have a closed adoption. I get pictures and letters every 6 months so that makes me happy.
10.) If you have an open adoption, what has been the toughest thing about it?
11.) If you have an open adoption, what has been the best thing about it?
12.) What has been the greatest lesson you've learned about the other side of the triad? (example: If you're an aMom, what have you learned about bMoms) I am a bithmother. I learned that the aparents are the best people in the world. I love them to death. A-parents are wonderful people. If it is best to give up your child make sure that you have picked the right ones. I met the aparents of my daughter. They are wonderful. They couldn't have children. So, it made me happy to make them happy.
13.) Name your biggest pet peeve in the adoption world? I'm sorry, but i dont know what a pet peeve is....
14.) If you are a birthmom, would you ever consider adopting a child? Why or why not? Yes. I would adopt. Now knowing what adoption is all about and giving the child up for a good reason or for the best of the child I would. I would like to adopt a child from someone that can't take care of their child no matter what the reason would be.
15.) Are you satisfied with the adoption agency you placed/adopted through? Why or why not? I didnt go through an agency.
16.) Do you currently attend a support group or receive any counselling through an agency? No.
17.) Name a disappointment you've felt after placing/adopting: I was just disappointed that I couldn't take care of her and I couldnt see her until she was 18. I did spend the time in the hospital with her that I was there, though. I'm glad about that. I got to hold her and feed her, etc....
18.) Name a misconception people (family,strangers) have about you being an adoptive mom or birthmom or adoptee: None.
19.) What books, magazines, websites, articles, links, etc ...have you found most helpful after placing/adopting? I go to chat rooms and just read about it anywhere.
20.) Write anything you wish here:I'm glad I did what I did. It was for the best. Even though I miss her and love her, I know she is in a great home. I love the a-parents to death. I wish I could send them pictures of my son and I, but I can't. I'm not allowed to send them letters or anything. I couldn't take care of her on my own because I already had a son and my son's father didn't help and neither would my daughter's. So it was for the best. She will be 2 in May. It has gone by so fast so far. I hope time goes this fast until she is 18!!!
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