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My kids were 12 and 13 when I met their step-father and it tooks way longer for them to bond with him..... In fact my youngest didn't slip up and say, "I love you," to him for about four years....
I would give your daughter some time, maybe talk to her oneday after shopping stop and have pie and talk about how much he cares for her....how you really want her to have a father who is part of her life......one who will walk her down the isle when she gets married and be a grandpa to her kids... talk and then let her know you are not in a rush...... then let some time pass.
There will still be certain steps that need to be taken to terminate her birthfathers rights and it does take time to get everything done.
Bring this issue up once in awhile..... try refering to your husband as 'dad' casually......like during dinner, "hey dad could you please pass the potatos...." Give her some time to get used to the reality of it all.....she will want a dad at her wedding and a grandpa for her kids....she will start to like the idea of a dad, if she is helped to see what that really means in the future not just for today.
You might be surprised that her feelings start to change...she is not far away from the 'love daddy' teenager thing. she will start to feel better about this if the benefits are made about her and her life not her step father and what he wants or needs....focuse on her needs and the things lttle girls want from dads.
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Last edited by HappyMomAnna : 11-07-2003 at 08:37 AM.
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