[BrandyHagz]

Lewey,

I disagree!

I think you should be upfront and honest with him. He doesn’t seem to be sparing any expense when he backs away from the relationship. And besides, it doesn’t sound like you have a whole heck of a lot to lose in this anyway.

Write him a letter. Explain to him that you do love him, and want to be a part of his life…but you are unsure of where he is in his decision to have you in his life. Explain that you’re going to leave the relationship up to him. Let him be in control of what he wants…either way, it falls back to him.

I have had to do the same with my birthmother…although she’s made it pretty clear she wants no more contact. I did write her a final letter explaining that I did still want to be a part of her life, and no matter what, I would always try to be there for her when the time was right. I also told her I would keep her apprised of any changes in my contact information, should she decide to pursue a relationship at a latter date.

Create closure for yourself, even though it isn’t closure for the relationship. Except that you have done all you can do to make the relationship work. Reunions are like a marriage, they will only work if both parties are willing to work for it…you cant do 90%, while he only does 10%.

Good luck with your decision, I hope that your son sees what an awesome opportunity he has with this reunion, and straightens up!