[HappyMomAnna]

If you have not started your homestudy be ready to talk about everything in your life--your past--present and the ways you plan to have a stable unshaken future. If you are wishing to adopt a newborn it may be all the decision of a birthmother as to which family she chooses to place her baby with and she may decide what she can accept or not in the family she chooses. If you are adopting from the state everything that has brought you to this decision will matter.
Those of us who have been in the system do need to talk about it...... and often we are asked to have additional mental health evaluations, humans are not God and when deciding on the life of a child humans have to do their bests to insure the child is in the best possible home. The requirments to adopt are not the same as giving birth...... People are responsible for the decisions they make and those people have to do their best to be sure the best interest of the child is the only thing that matters.
Your Homestudy will go over things you never dreamed had anything to do with being a parent. Adoption is a more legally binding contract then birth! It is a long process and there are a number of things that have to be considered. Our childhood and how we lived as a child has everything to do with who we become....
by the time your homestudy is done your casewrker will know things about you that you had forgotten, didn't think mattered or believed made you a stronger person. By the time the homestudy is finished your worker will know almost everything about you and your home..... it is part of the sacrifice we make in order to have children placed into our care.... it is hard, takes time and requires open and honest work.
Best of luck....