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My parents died 10 months apart when I was 19. The day after my dad died, I looked thru papers in the house simply because I was alone and thought that's what I was supposed to do. I found paperwork that showed my sister was adopted. What a master detective, I thought! Well, you know the next set of mysterious papers I found were mine: I was adopted too. No one told me. My sis knew she was, and she knew I was, but never told me either fact. I was angry - so angry - but then overwhelmingly guilty because I was mad at dead people. Everyone kept it from me, one godparent even going so far to tell me (after I found out) that I wasn't 'mature' enough to handle it, so it was kept secret.
Offer you dad-in-law the genealogy info and let him look at it. You could even ask his help/opinion on certain info that didn't make sense to you, w/out letting on you think he may be adopted. It may turn out to be something entirely different than adoption and that he was aware of. I think it will depend on how you approach him. And if you care enough about his reaction to ask opinions of others who are adopted, then I'm sure he'll see that kindness in you.
Good luck!
Sasha
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