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Another book you might want to read is "Theraplay" by Ann Jernberg and Phyllis Booth. It is available at amazon.com. It is a method developed in Chicago around 30 years ago. It incorporates everything that Pat mentioned and additionally recommends an 8 week time period where the child should not watch TV, should not go to preschool, should not go to the grocery store or mall or playground(basically no place that overstimulation can occur)In this 8 week period the mother or fahter should be within 3 feet of the child at all times when the child is awake so the child's focus is you and your husband.

They also recommend as Pat said to NOT use spanking OR time outs as discipinary techniques, but rather holding the child and being calm.

As the title of the book implies, this technique also is about buidling the relationship through attachment -based play. The book discusses all kinds of ways you can play with your child and become attached at the same time. There are therapists all over the country that also are trained in this technique that assist parents, too. You absolutely can implement everything from the book at home without a therapist.