[kmalay]

I think there is some wonderful advice on here. I too applied in Feb of 2002, approved Sept 2002 and was matched once in Nov 2002 but that did not work out and then was matched in May of this year for 2 different situations and had to make a choice we chose the sib group over the single child, but with that being said we are still waiting for TPR on them so we have not met them yet. The waiting is terrible with the system and yes you have to stay on the caseworkers in a major way. You also have to do a lot of the searching and investigating yourself as we did. We learned a lot along the way because of it and I think it will make us better and more educated parents. Also just remember that the blessing at the end of the struggle is well worth it. A friend of mine told me while I was waiting to get matched compare it to the infertility treatments I went through. That portion was all the treatment prep stuff. Then when we were 1 of the finalists for a child that was the treatment itself and finally when we got matched with our boys she came up and congradulated me for being pg. I laugh now because it will be 9 months since I actually found them on the website next week. I joked and told her that the delivery better come soon. Just try to keep it in that perspective and it does help. Best wishes.