Response to tobeafamily
Thanks for responding. I am hoping what you described is how this day will go.
"Have you also thought about getting together with her before the 'big day' so you can spend time without feeling like you're rushing about, etc. and she's not apprehensive about being around a ton of people?"
I asked her a few times if she was sure that she would be OK being around a large group and she just wanted to make sure she was not going to make anyone else feel uncomfortable and that she was fine with being around everyone. So I came up with the showing up early suggestion so that I would not push the issue, but would still give her time to feel comfortable before anyone shows up.
BTW -- Did you get any strange responses from friends or family with the open arrangement? Since we did not start out as open, I find that trying to explain to others that we are having our daughter's bmom there is the most difficult part. They don't seem to understand why in the world we would want to do that.
Again, thanks for the reply. I am looking forward to the day and really hope it works out like yours did!
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