If I was in your shoe's, I would let her take anything you bought during the time she was living with you, that was child intended. If you bought video's and she was the first to watch them, then send them with her (you can make copies also, just borrow a VCR). If you bought clothes and she was the first to wear them, then send them. If you bought toys and she was the first to play with them, then let her take them. If you bought a bike and she was the first to ride it, I would send that also. I think children need to have a sense of security. We adults are the only one's that should worry about money and really, in the end, we are not doing this for money but to improve the lives of the children that come through your door.
Please consider sending her on her way with most of what she wants, excluding things that were there before she arrived or are highly personal to you. Give her the sense that she means more to you then any stupid video, toy, etc. Good things come to those who give. The main thing is that this child leaves your house knowing she is loved.
Obviously, I'm not in your shoe's, so I won't presume to understand completely, but that is how I would handle it.
Good luck to you at this difficult time. Bye
