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JJ
I totally agree with you that there are many successful and honest adoptions that happen everyday. My husbands is an example, but his was 37 years ago, things were very different. He found his birthmom 2 years ago and they have a great relationship. We just are one of those types of people that if you get burned once we will not let it happen again. We had too many hearts involved (my husband my daughter and myself and all of our family) in this and I could not bear to go through something like that again, to us its just not worth it. And like I said I am pregnant, with all going very well I might add, we really aren't even exploring adoption at all anymore. We are very fortunate to have that choice because of our current circumstances, I only wish every one could be as lucky as us.
We had many red flags along the way through our adoption,many are included in the above lists, unfortunately I chose to ignore and make excuses for them. I regret that now, I also never really looked into the "red flags" prior to the whole mess, I wish I had. Shoulda woulda coulda we can honestly say though it was a learning experience we will never forget.
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