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I am posting this post as a mother, not as any part of the traid, but a mother.
I think that as a parent we want to shelter our children from any harm, emotionally or phyisically, it hurts us when our children are in pain. I am a parent to three children, I am a mother to four. What I want for all my children is for them to have the ability to grow into wonderful human beings, sometimes it hurts to grow. Truth is sometimes harsh, and unforgiving. BUT the truth is what makes our children grow into these wonderful adults. Yes it would hurt to read that their mother did not want them at that time in her life, When my child asks a question and I know the answer will hurt them, I do not shower that answer with flowers but give it to them straight, letting them know that it is okay to feel angry, sad and hurt,I stand by and let them be in their feelings they know that my arms are a place of comfort. I think that if we shelter our children we are only doing more harm. for these children will not be our children forever. Humans are complex in nature, and I really do believe that if a child is told a truth covered in flowers that the child will never grow to understand, the child will never learn compassion, they will never to overcome obstacles. My children are curious by nature, now I wonder if it is in the way they are raised. I want my children to be curious about everything,this world has so much to offer, so much to give, so much pain to endure, I want my children to know upset, to know anger, to know hurt, for when they do their hearts and minds grow, they become strong minded individuals that are not afraid to speak their own minds, or to tell the truth.
Hugs
Melissa
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